“Are you mormon?”
“Wait. so that story about setting the guy on fire, you did that sober?”
“Ah, now you have said it, I was gonna say, you do look like an addict”
“Wait. so that story about the heist, you did that sober too?”
“I can’t trust people who don’t drink.”
“Is it a religious thing? You don’t like religions.” (Same guy who said I looked like an addict)
These are but a small handful of statements many have said within moments of me mentioning “I don’t drink”.
"It can make you feel like you’re a bit of a social letdown."
The judgement you can get for stating sobriety can be bizarre. More often than not it is an insight into the askers' insecurities re: their own drinking. Yet it can still make you feel like you’re a bit of a social letdown.
Despite the growing popularity in loving your liver — a quarter of 16-24 year-olds in the UK don't drink at all — it doesn’t stop the judgement that to not drink is a sign of being ANTI-FUN, anti-love, anti-hedonism and anti-interesting. Although there are more sober people being brought up (I would assume they were conceived on purpose rather than say, a broom cupboard at your office party), it is still not always easy to hold your own and avoid the looks of “Well, we know ELF won’t be fun with the staff game of Spin the Bottle!”. Even though, I will be. And I will win Spin the Bottle (“that’s not how it works Elf.” “Is when I play it.”. See? Hedonism. TICK.)
Christmas in London as a non-drinker can be gruelling. Old Street resembles a sequence out of Mad Max: Fury Road. Tube stations pulsate with the drunken dregs in beer-stained christmas jumpers. Everything seems marketed at getting you and your friends as smashed as possible in order to spend maximum £££££ in fancy bars and niche themed restaurants, which don’t pay all their workers properly.
Here’s my advice on fun activities to get you seasonal and christmassy, without the resulting hangover. You can show people that just because you don't like getting black out drunk and drunkenly snog Karen from HR does not make you a Scrooge. But that also, just because you DON’T DRINK doesn’t mean you CAN’T seduce Karen from HR with your knowledge of cool events in the city. Because there is more to Karen, and she’s loved you SINCE THE BEGINNING. Just be confident.
Don’t believe me? I stopped drinking because alcohol led me to nudity and having intimate relationships with past members of staff from my siblings' old schools. However, since then, sobriety has proven to me that the latter STILL happens. See! It has NO impact on how FUN you are! Believe in yourself!
Here are my tips:
1. Afternoon tea
Nothing says I AM FUN like sandwiches, jam and a tray that has a code on how to eat from it. Someone who appreciates a good carb is the ultimate christmas party beast. If you want to BE FANCY with all that money you’ve saved from no booze, The Ritz has a nice combination of old aristocrats and hookers to people-watch. That and parents pressuring their children that they are the better parent since the divorce because “Daddy would never let you eat a full gluten scone”). For £57 — that’s the same price you would end up spending on two naff cocktails, a round for your mates and a terrible kebab in Soho. But you will end up spending longer at The Ritz and the Instagram pics will be better.
If you want to be edgy and imagine yourself as a Skins character grown-up and working in the tech industry, Sketch is an ideal place to ogle large groups of hipsters who take photos of everything and don't talk. The decor is incredible. At £80 it is one of the priciest afternoon teas, but the toilets will give you a seasonal feeling, as you are literally sitting inside a goose. And who needs to drink on the loo eh?
View this post on Instagram
You can take a peek… But they are All Wrapped Up! By @LovePrintGroup in the Pods… #sketchChristmas #dulcedomum #sweethome #Christmas #AllWrappedUp #thegiftofgiving #presents #EATMUSICDRINKART With partnerships, sketch Christmas comes to life, thank you @champagnepommery @cirocgb @tala @gfsmithpapers @fevertreemixers @tizianaterenzi #partners 🎄🎁
For old school Agatha Christie vibes, Tea House Theatre in Vauxhall is the place to go. Affordable? Hells yeah. Charismatic? Indeed. Made of tea cosies, old wooden grandmother furniture and decked to the nines with homely christmas decorations AND THERE ARE CATS! With only tea on the drinks menu (sorry coffee freaks) this is a warm and unintimidating place to socialise without any pressure to booze. Also, on the weekend, you're a one-minute stroll across the grass from the Royal Vauxhall Tavern. Walk over to catch ‘the friendliest cabaret in town’ at 4pm.
2. See a bloody show
Culture! Who needs to be smashed for that?! If you want comedy — despite the fact the bar often resembles a students union — the Soho Theatre has kind staff and a good developing choice of nonalcoholic bevvies. With performances from 4pm onwards, way up until midnight, you have extensive choice and can even double up with back to back shows. A more dynamic way of celebrating the season with friends and more original than the traditional panto.
However, if you don't like to laugh... see a ballet. Go on. Take Karen! Try The Snowman at the Peacock Theatre. One: it is not as long as normal grown up ballet, Two: It is still proper ballet, but arguably harder because everyone is dressed up as a snowman, Three: it is full of children and WHO WANTS TO BE THE BOOZER IN FRONT OF THE BABIES? Spend your saved alco-cash on ice-cream at the interval. Or, if theatres make you come out in dry sweats, go to the cinema to watch ballet (the ROH do live showings at most cinemas now)… Who can get away with saying “Mate, I'm going to the bar. Do you want anything?” when the FILM IS ON!?! AN IDIOT. THAT IS WHO.
3. Get into coffee
Although my mother disagrees, nothing says ‘Christmas’ like reading Kafka on your own listening to Pulp at Bar Italia. Embody your inner Timothée Chalamet (in every role we know he will end up getting cast in for the rest of his life) by going to one of the most famous coffee bars in the city. Bar Italia stops serving alcohol at 11pm but continues making coffee until after 2am on the weekends. A great post show, post dinner meeting spot, you can eat cake, drink coffee, listen to Sky News in the background, eavesdrop on the first dates, and feel totally part of Soho's seasonal splendour.
4. Alcohol-free restaurants
There are more clean eating and alcohol free restaurants and bars in London than ever before. All it takes is a little digging and you will find one. More often than not, it'll be in east London. Redemption in Shoreditch has risen in reputation, and it has another branch in Notting Hill. Also worth checking out is Drink, Shop & Do — not quite alcohol free, but still a kooky place with great mocktails and binge food. This month they have christmas crotchet workshops, and Mariah Carey dance classes. Organise an event there. Sorted. Your fingers will be too tired from crotcheting to pick up a beer.
5. Change the time
Why do all exciting events have to start in the evening, when it is dark and cold? If you still haven’t organised your work do yet, or are in charge of your uni society's Christmas meet up, think outside the box. Do a Big Christmas Brunch. Coffee, tea, virgin marys — everyone is catered for, and again, like afternoon tea, THERE ARE CARBS.
6. Remember the birth of Christ
Find a friend who has kids, and ask to go to their kid's nativity play. End of. You don’t need alcohol for this. Who needs alcohol to watch children re-enact an age old story involving a housing crisis and an unwanted pregnancy. And if you do it is probably a sign you are not ready to be a parent.
7. Move to a different country for the month
A place where alcohol is technically banned like Saudi Arabia, or Sudan*. Due to the human rights laws you will have other things to focus on rather than “I am dying for a vodka tonic”. PERSPECTIVE.
8. If none of the above works and you are genuinely struggling, go here:
Tea, biscuits, lovely smiling faces and kindness. Remember, you were fun when you were eight, and you are fun now. You don’t need booze to have a great time and show yourself and others that you are a grade 1 heavyweight legend. Do things this Christmas that make you feel silly.
*Ed: does this count as in London?